- What I've Learned -
In the third grade, I went to a Spice Girls themed birthday party and had to ask who the Spice Girls were. I couldn't tell the difference between NSYNC or The Backstreet Boys. I listened to Stevie Wonder's The Woman in Red on a cassette tape. I spent most of my time pretending to be the host of an infomercial selling hand soap to myself in front of a bathroom mirror. On rare occasion, it was replaced with shampoo. My classmates considered me an insult to our generation.
Basically, I've always been a little bit different. More of an observer than you might think. This is terrible for friend-making, but excellent for people-watching. When I thought about what I've learned recently about people, I had a few things to pass along:
People are insects.
They're more afraid of you than you are of them. Try spending half of your time thinking about someone else instead of what someone else thinks about you. I promise you'll feel more relaxed.
Don't ignore yourself.
Feeling tired? Go to bed. Need to cry? Then do it. Upset with a friend? Communicate. It's not always this simple, but more often than not you'll find that, it is.
Ask people how they are.
Then listen. Small talk actually tells you a lot about who someone really is - if you're actually listening.
Think about who you were a year ago.
Are you better, faster, stronger, nicer, happier, etc.? Ask yourself these questions. Stop scrolling through Instagram comparing you to anyone but you.
Stop compulsively scrolling through your feed.
Stop it. You are what you consume. If you're religiously exposing yourself to what so-and-so from college ate last weekend and the rants of someone's aunt's neighbor, then it's time to reevaluate. Knock it off and you'll feel one hundred times better. Guaranteed.
So, I've gotta know - is this another third grade birthday party situation or has anyone else learned something similar? xx