- Lessons From a Working Lady -
I graduated from college in 2013 with a severe aversion to pants with buttons, high heels, and waking up before nine in the morning. I graduated on a Saturday, began work that Monday, and I haven't stopped since. What I've learned in the past four years is more valuable than anything I've learned in a classroom and I want nothing more than to pass it along. Here we go, ladies:
Stop apologizing. I have a tendency to speak as if I am writing a telegram:
I answered your email SORRY I'll be at the meeting later SORRY Did you get my draft earlier? SORRY
I once had a boss tell me that I wasn't really sorry. 'Huh?' I looked at her, confused. 'You're not sorry. We, as women, need to stop beginning and ending our thoughts with, "Sorry."' And, she was right. I wasn't sorry. I was simply using 'I'm sorry' as a period. Which leads us to...
Don't be afraid of silence. When you're finished with your thought, stop. Silence is okay. Silence is always more powerful than the 'um' or 'sooooo' that you feel itching out of you.
Dress for the job you want, not the job you have. Ignore your inner yoga-pants-wearing self. At 4:30 am, the last thing I want to put on is a dress with a complicated zipper and some patent leather pumps. But, people are visual. If you look the part, you would be surprised how others think you actually are the part.
Opinions are...opinions. 'Consider the source,' as my dad always says. If you get a negative review from an inexperienced and jealous coworker, brush it off. But if you get negative feedback from a well-respected boss, really reflect on the criticism. Value most things you hear at work, but not all. This lesson saves you mounds of anxiety.
Put your nose to the grindstone and get started. You would be surprised at how many people are watching your career move.
"Keep working no matter what happens. If things are good, keep working. If things are bad, keep working." - Moby